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Wednesday, July 19, 2006
(This is a letter I felt compelled to send to CBS after witnessing a horribly written episode of "Criminal Minds") I'm pretty pissed off about your recent episode of Criminal Minds. In a time when transgender people are struggling for equality and getting killed in the streets of America, we do not need this worthless shlock sending an untruthful and discriminatory message. Transgender people are statistically LESS violent and LESS prone to criminal behavior than the rest of the population and your show suggested the exact opposite. It also suggested that people become transgender because of some kind of criminal intent. It is immoral, irresponsible and stupid to make this suggestion in such a widely distributed medium. Most people in this country don't have the intelligence to see shows like Criminal Minds as a pure fiction, which is precisely why such dramas are so popular these days. Portraying transgender people in such a bad light is the stuff of Jerry Springer. I really thought you were above that. Sincerely,
(Here's a question to my readers... Do you think I underestimate the intelligence of the American public? Are we smart enough to watch things like this and not connect it subconciously to the real world?) 9:01 PM - 2 Comments - 3 Kudos |
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Monday, July 17, 2006
1. The most common problem I see on Myspace is really, horribly bad background images. Background images are completely useless, unless you really don't want people to be able to read or use your page at all. A background image almost always causes the text to be unreadable at one portion of the page or another. If you must use a background image, choose something that is mostly one color (ie. boring), and then choose a text color that contrasts with that. They also make the pages take longer to load, which is a problem on complex sites like Myspace anyway. Here's some examples of background images that make the page totally unreadable.
2. Posting useless photos, suspect photos, or none at all. See my blogs about headless horsemen and posers. The real problem with headless photos is that it could be of anyone besides yourself. I know people are shy about being on Myspace, but there's nothing essentially wrong with having a profile here... there is no reason to post 'incognito' photos, if you are careful about what else you post. If you post photos of your face, and also say you're a child molester, then yeah, there's a problem, but it's not with the photos. Here's some examples of 'total waste of time' photos.
3. Posting nothing but your friend's list. Hello?! We don't care who your friends are... we want to know about you! Here's some examples:
4. Posting no original content. "Blogthings" are fun, but it shouldn't be the whole purpose of your profile. I have two on my page, but they are small, and they give valuable information in an interesting way. Write something yourself, and post one or two surveys or "blogthings" at the most. Don't overdo it, it's totally insincere, and says that you have no creative ability at all. Example:
5. Posting a music player on your page that starts automatically. I don't need to put examples of this, everyone does it. Same goes for videos. This is rude, in the same way that having a super-loud stereo in your car is rude. Go ahead and tell me what music you like, but don't force me to listen to it. I'm already listening to what I like. This doesn't apply to bands who have original music, but it still shouldn't be auto-start. I want choices... don't take my choices! 6. Trying to sell something on your profile. I don't care what it is... I don't want it. It's most definitely a violation of Myspace's rules as well. Examples:
[many, many porn sites... see my blog "Posers"] 7. Posting photos that aren't you, and don't contribute to the profile in any way. This person asks "Biological Male or Gorgeus Female?" (weird misspelling there)... how are we supposed to answer that question when all you post is a cartoon?
8. Using CSS tricks that only work in Internet Explorer. 58 percent of computer users use Internet Explorer (58 percent of people obviously don't know any better)... but this means if you use IE-only things... you alienate 42 percent of the viewers out there. IE supports filters, and transitions. It supports the onBlur JavaScript event. If you use these, your page will only work in IE. There's a whole bunch of other ways to mess up your Myspace profile, but mostly, you need actually look at your own profile after you edit. If it's unreadable, annoying, and stupid... fix it. If you're doing anything mentioned on the following site... stop it.
Good luck, and happy Myspacing.
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Thursday, July 13, 2006
Centralia, Pennsylvania, where an underground coal fire has burned for over 40 years.
Lots of ads (no pop-ups), but the story is fascinating and the photos are very interesting. 9:27 PM |
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Thursday, July 06, 2006
Recently I have discovered a number of 'posers' on Myspace. I am speaking of people pretending to be some kind of gender-crossing individual, when they are really not. About a year ago I discovered someone using photos of RuPaul as their own. I reported it to Myspace and they deleted the account right away. That kind of situation is obvious, but what's happened lately is even more disturbing. I have seen several people using photos of relatively unknown female models, and claiming that the photos are their own. These photos are obviously of women, and in one case, a group of photos was presented as the person's own, and they were not even all of the same person. In other cases, people have used 'photoshopped' images of other people, and swapping in their own face, or their own body with the face of the model. I WILL NOT TOLERATE THIS. It is unethical and hurts our community. I will report anyone who is doing this. There's two reasons I can think of why someone would do this. One, the person is not TS, but pretending to be in order to gain the trust of genuine trannies, probably in order to victimize them in one way or another. The other reason is that someone is TS, but doesn't have the personal self-confidence to present photos of themself. In that case, it is better to post no photos, than to post photos of other people. I considered listing the user names of these folks, but I reported them to Myspace, so they will probably be deleted before my readers could check it out. I still wanted to post this warning to be on the lookout for these losers - I'm sure there's more of them out there that I haven't discovered yet. I used to think there were a whole bunch of smokin' hot young trannies out there, but I've realised that is not the case. Transsexuals look like me. Don't think you don't look good enough to post your own photos, and please don't be tempted to post photos of other people. I know we all think of ourselves as beautiful women, and we are, but we are not Claudia Schiffer. Acceptance of that fact is an important step to becoming a Happy Tranny! Stay cool! Be yourself!
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Monday, June 19, 2006
People don't usually ask this, but they should. Someone recently actually asked me for tips on internet relationships, which I thought was interesting, because it's clear that many folks out there have no idea what's going on, but nobody ever asks. Every girl with an internet profile knows what I'm talking about, but guys, you don't. Let me spell it out real easy for you to start: The internet is REAL LIFE, with real people. Don't do anything on the internet that you wouldn't do in real life. That said, it is also pretty clear that most men have no idea how it works in real life either. Here's how it works, guys... in step-by-step order so it's easy to understand. Doing any of these steps out of order will not help you, and skipping steps is what eliminates most of the guys who contact me. 1. You meet me by chance somehow. In real life, this is at the store, post office, gas station, at work, or whatever. On the net, this is when you find my profile and decide to write me an email. 2. You make some kind of contact (click here for more about that issue). In real life, you say hi, talk about the weather, gas prices, or something we happen to both notice. Some of the best conversations start when something unusual happens and two people who share the moment, start talking when they otherwise wouldn't. On the net, you should send an introductory email, perhaps with a photo (of your face). This email should reveal or ask for nothing more than a chance grocery store meeting would. Under no circumstances, RL or net, should you skip to step 7!!! *NOTE: at this point, you should determine if I'm married or dating somebody and if I am, you're sunk... don't push it. 3. After you've made your introduction, you need to ask me out. Yeah, ask me out. Seriously, we girls like that kind of thing. It's required. There's a few things you can do here:
4. If I agree to go out with you, you're most of the way there. However, I'm amazed at how many guys screw up this step: keep the date! I'm tellin ya right now... if you fuck this up, don't ever call again. If you have a real good reason, then you need to make every effort to let me know what's going on before I spend an evening in a $300 cocktail gown and high heels eating Ben and Jerry's and watching TV in my apartment. You need to keep the date... make it definite when you ask, get a firm answer, and be there. 5. Pick me up or meet me on time and have a plan of where we are going and what we are doing, unless I suggested otherwise. How to conduct yourself on a date is an entirely different blog and I'm not going to get into it, but be yourself, be confident (after all, I did go out with you), and don't drink too much or try to get me wasted either. 6. At the end of our date, or close to it, both of us will have made the decision about whether we will pursue 'further action' with the other person. It may be old-fashioned, but I think the guy needs to take the initiative here. Either ask me out again, or ask if I would like to "continue the evening in a more intimate setting". Simply asking, "would you like to go to my place," will do. If your place is inappropriate for any reason, you will have to be more suggestive, but be classy about it please. There is no need to get into a long explanation, just ask if I would consider taking you home with me. Suggest something to do besides sex, like drinks or music or something... anything. An awkward private encounter can ruin your further chances, so if it doesn't feel right, wait. Either way, you should try to continue the relationship with further dates, emails, or phone calls. Don't be too pushy... if you struck out, go away. 7. You should know at this point if you are going to score or not. If you are getting the green light, then it's ok to start doing the things so many guys do way back at step 1 for some dumb-ass reason. Get out your naked photos if you like, be a little suggestive, talk about sex if you want. You should know at this point if I will accept naked photos or not, so please don't be inappropriate. If it's real life and we're gettin it on at my house or yours, I think you can figure it out. I should point out, that agreeing to spend time alone together isn't a 'yes' on the sex issue, but it's close. You'll probly get laid, but please be sure that's what I want. I have taken guys to my place solely for the chance to get to know them better, with no sexual intention. Be open to this, and don't be disappointed if you end up talking for hours and going home. Know that the woman is appreciating it very much. 8. If you get laid, you better call me back. If you don't like me, tell me... don't leave me hangin. If you have sex with a woman you need to call her back and either break it off or arrange to see her again. There's no middle ground here, you either go for it or you don't. Don't be a pussy about it and try to avoid the issue. 9. This is super-important! If you get into a relationship, you need to go back to step 3 (or maybe even 1) sometimes. Personally, I like that part of a relationship, and there's nothinig that can wreck a pair faster than ignoring that fact. This is a first draft. Please leave your comments and I will revise it. I would love to know what you have to think! Have a groovy day!
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Friday, May 05, 2006
No more headless trannies! For god's sake... be proud of yourself. Smile for the camera and show off your pretty face. Jeez. 2:22 PM - 1 Comments - 2 Kudos |
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Sunday, January 15, 2006
Since I signed up on this site I have received many emails from various people, some good, some not. This happens in my regular email as well. I do like to make friends, or I wouldn't be here, but you need to realize a few things before you send me a message. I am not a Bitch From Hell, I am quite friendly, but I am really sick of getting emails that totally waste my time. You will not get a response (or you might get flamed), if you do not conduct yourself in a certain manner. Please read the following link, and then read my comments below. Not everything in the article applies to me (see below), but in general it is correct. Again, you will not get a favorable response if I think you don't understand the following things:
If it's not clear after reading that, please don't bother to send me a message. Here are additional comments, in no particular order, to keep in mind (most of these will not apply to women, who seem to already understand): 1. I already know you think I'm hot. I love compliments (what girl doesn't), but if you wish to compliment me, please be specific. Tell me which photos you like, what you like about them, and why it appeals to you. Also, complimenting something I had to say will go a long way. Girls don't want to get the impression that you are a shallow lunkhead who can't read and only looks at the pictures. 2. I also already know that you want to suck my dick or fuck me or something like that. I really don't want to hear it. It goes without saying and if you want to have any chance of fulfilling your fantasy, keep your balls reigned-in, and think with your big head, not your little one. 3. Don't send me a one-liner message with no subject line. Take the time to write something meaningful. I am an intelligent and educated woman, and I am looking for the same in a partner. You will not get very far if you can't write in complete sentences. Also, check your spelling and grammar. The only time I have ever responded to a man without a profile was because he wrote me a really good message! 4. Have your profile filled out. I will not respond to people with no pictures and nothing to say about themselves. I am interested in relationships fueled by conversation... show me that you can provide that. 5. I am a pre-op transsexual, which means I think of myself as a woman, I behave like a woman, expect to be treated like a woman, but I do still have my 'boy parts'. I do realize (unlike a lot of t-girls), that this makes me quite different from your average woman, and I am not afraid to admit that. I do realise and accept the fact that you might find this sexually interesting, but I won't find you sexually interesting if it seems like you are interested in my genitalia, rather than my brain. Do not ask me if my boy parts are 'functional'... that depends entirely on you and whether you entice me or not. 6. Unlike the girl who wrote the article above, I am not an asexual being who hates my penis. I happen to enjoy what I have, particularly with women. However (and this is very important), I am not on this earth to help you fulfill your fantasies of being with a "man". If you are a man who likes dick, YOU ARE GAY. Get over it, come out, and seek out men. I am not a dick in a pretty package. If you do manage to have a sexual encounter with me, you will walk away feeling just as gay as you would after a sexual encounter with Arnold Schwarzenegger. 7. Don't be sappy or overly sentimental. Poetry will get you no where. I find it to be unoriginal and condescending. I am an educated woman and I will know if you copy someone else's work. Say something original. 8. I am not a crossdresser - I do not have a women's clothing fetish. This is not a sexual thing, it is a way of life. Please don't ask me what I like to wear, what I'm wearing right now (probly jeans and a t-shirt), and so on. This will get you no where... it's not about the clothes. I am a transsexual, not a transvestite... if you are looking for someone to model 'sexy' clothing for you, go somewhere else, unless you are a legitimate fashion designer looking for models (and you better be able to prove it). I realise that my photos show me in some fetishy clothing, but that is not how I am in everyday life. I see lots of women on this site posting photos of themselves in sexy attire. They obviously don't go around on the street in a bikini and high-heels. I don't either. That's just about it... treat me like a woman. If you understand the headline on my profile, you will realise that I do have a sense of humor about being transgendered. I know I'm different from most women, but I don't like it shoved in my face, and I don't want that difference to be the sole reason for your attraction to me. I am not a man, I don't think like a man, and as such, I'm not looking for sexual encounters, I want something more! Thanks for reading! Jasmine 5:24 PM - 3 Comments - 2 Kudos |
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Saturday, December 10, 2005
One 12oz cup of coffee (make it the good stuff, please) One 2oz shot of Dekuyper Buttershots Whipped cream is good with this, but I'm lactose-intolerant, so I do it pure. Try it! Let me know if you like it. Great in cold weather 1:44 AM |
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Saturday, January 15, 2005
OK sister... please don't come shopping looking like total crap. You're making us all look bad! I know you think you're 'far enough' in your transition that you don't have to wear makeup or do your hair or be fashionable in any way, but you do. And your total lack of boobs or any other feminine shape doesn't help. Wear some forms until they grow a little bit. I realize that one big goal for trannies is to be passable without makeup, breast forms or wigs, but you're not there yet honey! You look like crap. Go home and put some makeup on and wash your hair for god's sake. (I'm not satisfied with just being somewhat girly, I like to be pretty, and if you don't, I guess that's your business. I just think if you don't look your best, it shows you're not happy with, or proud of, who you are.) 11:38 PM - 4 Comments - 6 Kudos |
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Wednesday, August 25, 2004
I really do love kids. I really do. They are so observant, and uninhibited in their responses to things. This annoys some people, usually their parents, but I happen to like it. Today I served a customer that had two little girls, probably 6 and 8 years old. As they were walking away, I heard the younger one say "he looks like a girl." To which the mother responded something like "don't say that." I can't tell you how much I wanted to go up to the lady and say, "hey, it's perfectly ok for her to make that observation. It's quite intelligent and observant of her to say that, since that's exactly the look I'm going for. In 6 months you yourself won't be able to distinguish me from a regular girl." I didn't say that but I really wanted to. Parents out there, don't discourage your kids from voicing their observations. Usually they are noticing something you noticed too, but were afraid to say anything about. We don't want to stifle our kid's observant nature. This is an important skill they'll need later in life. 12:40 AM - 3 Comments |
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Wednesday, August 25, 2004
Are you an idiot? How come you can't seem to count to one? I asked for one, not two, not three... can't you count? Every time I come here I ask for one mustard. That's all I need and I say it very clearly, but you always give me two or three. Don't you realize that's costing your company money? It means they'll eventually have to raise prices and they might not be able to afford to give you that 15 cent raise you've been working so hard for. Get a freekin clue already and give me one mustard when I ask for one fucking mustard! Or maybe I should say uno? Would that help? 12:35 AM |
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Monday, August 09, 2004
How the fuck do you know what I'm seeing out my windshield, asshole?! Don't fucking honk at me because you left late for work. This is not my problem. Don't assume that I'm not paying attention either. I'm still sitting here at the light, because there is a child in the street and I'm not going to run him over, just because your blind ass can't see him! I'll leave that kind of sick depravity to assholes like you. Next time you honk at me, motherfucker, I'm gonna pull the brake, get out of my car, and I'm going to come and beat the living shit out of you. Seriously. 12:36 PM |
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Sunday, August 08, 2004
Why do people use stupid colors on their web pages? You should all be sent to Web Design Boarding School! Hopefully someplace with old fat matrons carrying whips. Yellow letters on a red background is totally unreadable! 2:22 PM |